"she dumped me"

a friend of mine recently got the official rejection from a girl he was dating. initially they were hanging out and getting to know each other and there seemed to be a little bit of chemistry going on there. so things were going pretty well and then suddenly she decides that maybe they're not suitable for each other. so he called me we had a lengthy conversation about how devastated he was.

little did he know...i'm obviously the last person to talk to. i have no words of comfort and no words of wisdom. my motto in life is 'shit happens' so what can i say? i'm not the kind of person who uses any of the following lines...

- don't worry...time will heal
- there are many fishes out there
- you're still young...you'll find someone soon
- she doesn't deserve you anyway

etc....

no matter how hard we try to stay disconnected from our emotions we will definitely feel that pinch. people ask me how i do it....how i stay strong...how do i manage to shrug it off like its nothing. answer is...i honestly don't know. maybe i haven't really put myself out there so i never have the privilege of getting hurt. or maybe it's just because none of them meant enough for me to hurt. maybe i just hurt in silence.....

there is no quick fix. there is no true blue way of protecting yourself. all you can do is hope for the best and if it doesn't turn out right...suck it up and move on. no point trying to dissect the whole thing to figure out what went wrong or what could've been done differently. no point placing blame or creating excuses to make yourself feel better. the sooner you accept it...the faster you can get over it.

if you wanna tell yourself that it was "TRUE LOVE" and that no one else understands what you're going through...then you should probably go dig yourself a hole and jump in after. if you think that there's no hope for healing then you're probably going to suffer and slowly bleed to death.

in the end...we love...we lose...we hurt...we learn...we mourn...we remember...but we still have to move on.