if love was enough....

sometimes i wonder what society has turned into today. in one of my dads attempt to joke about my singlehood...he mentioned that he is considering putting me through d'arrange marriage. my grandparents were subjected to an arranged marriage. they got married at the age of 16. there's a picture of my grandparents a few months after they got married and they were the same height at that time. they weren't the same height years later. my grandfather was sent off to marry before he reached adolescence. and that was probably the trend back then. but for the record...my grandparents grew to love each other.

nowadays...we have it good. we get to choose who we want to be with or whether we want to be with anyone at all. we set our standards and reach for it. i know i do. relationships become an option...not an ultimatum. we go in and out of relationships searching for that one person that we want to spend the rest of our lives with. just like in all those fairy tales where the prince and the servant girl lives happily ever after. disillusioned by the stories we desperately search for our prince (or servant girl). sometimes...we grow to love a person...other times...we grow otherwise.

love becomes a fixation. something that we obssess over...and desperately try to find. but what is it? who really knows? is it the promise of diamonds and gold? or is it the promise of happiness and joy? are the two the same? does one have to lead to the other? or is happiness enough?

so many questions. if we went back in time....what would our ancestors say? i think that they would tell us that all you need is love...trust...honesty...loyalty...and each other. we don't need a large wedding...flowers...diamonds...money...a mansion and all that jazz. and that's just my personal opinion.....